4 responses to “Red Means Red, Except When it Doesn’t”

  1. marckey

    ya but in some cases that kind of defeats the purpose. The surrendering of control totally. Of course this requires someone that you totally trust with a brain. but then if you know ur safe for some it could still lose something. It may be foolish but somehow that element of risk can really make a difference.

  2. Morgan

    “Most cases”? I disagree heartily. There can be a lot of purposes. Anyone I play with, we always agree on safe words ahead of time. I’ve never needed a red, but it’s a comfort to know it’s there, for both of us. It’s like having a safety net- it’s better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it. Playing without safe words is considered “edge play”. It’s done, but it’s rare. And it’s very high risk. BDSM play is inherently risky. Without safe words, the risk factor goes WAY way up.

  3. mary

    I gotta say i’ve never said my safeword yet with my play partner, instead I cuss a lot! I never remember it anyway, like a mental block. I did say it once with the bf, but he didn’t hear it because I didn’t say it anywhere near loud enough. Safewords are there but it doesn’t always work out for me.

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