One response to “What’s Love Got to Do With It? BDSM and Relationships”

  1. Mike

    Hi Rev,
    Wow!! Your articles are so amazing and enjoyable, thank you. I am relatively new to the BDSM scene (six months actively). After being in an increasingly restrictive marriage for a long time, I broke away at the start of this year. Six months ago I met someone who would change my life. When we met I had very little experience with BDSM, and it played no part in how we met, in fact it was our shared love of music, vinyl records, and our similar ages that attracted us together. We fell in love quickly and both of us being in our mid 40’s had each been in loveless marriages for most of our adult lives, so we felt this strongly we didn’t want to waste anymore time not enjoying each other. My partner, who had some experience, did inform me early on about her interest in BDSM and if I would like to become her Dom. It only came as a shock to me because I felt so privileged that she wanted me as her Sir. At first I felt like I seemed to be making mistakes all the time. If it wasn’t for finding this website, a lot of research, and the loving guidance and patience of my sub,I probably would have given up by now. I am now far more confident and each time we play I grow and so does she. The one thing that has gone through the roof is how we feel about each other. It has gone far deeper than what we both thought love was. Not only are we Dom/sub, but we are best friends, the closest of allies, the most intimate I have ever been with anyone ever. We both agree that it’s this intense love we have that makes it so great. It might not work like that for everyone, but it works a treat for us. Cheers and much thanks.

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