why we do what we do

Ten (and a Half) Ways That a BDSM Scene is Like a Workout

By Rev on April 6, 2015

I’ve recently started walking and running regularly again. Every time I suit up and get out there, clock ticking and CAKE thumping in my ears, it occurs to me how much my runs and a BDSM scene have in common. Check this out: Ten Ways That a BDSM Scene is Like a Workout 1) [...]

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Compassion and Emotional Sadism

By Rev on February 2, 2015

Do you consider yourself a compassionate person? Are you also finding that you’re a sadistic person? Do you think of yourself as having a high degree of empathy (the ability to sense and feel the feelings of others) and yet also know that you experience some pleasure in the discomfort of the submissive masochist in [...]

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