J. Blank, aka The Dominant Gentleman, strongly believes that being Dominant doesn't preclude one from also behaving as a Gentleman (or Lady), and that respect is paramount in any relationship, especially D/s relationships. A "real world" relationship and life coach with a kink-friendly practice, J. spends his days helping people figure out what they really want, and take steps to achieve it. Which gives him some unique insights into the amazing world that is the human psyche. Because of this, J. believes Doms have a nigh-sacred responsibility to their subs, and can sometimes be found on Twitter (@Jason_Blank), loudly ranting about the difference between a Dom and, as he puts it, "a jackass with ego issues." He can be reached by email at DomJBlank (at) gmail (dot) com.

One response to “Who’s In Charge of What, Now? Defining Areas of Control and Spheres of Influence”

  1. subtoJB

    Another great article, Sir. (And I’m not just saying that because I’m partial…)

    I’d like to echo what I believe to be another main point about the Spheres of Influence category. In some cases, I need “input” from Sir and it may not fall under an area he controls. It helps me to say “I’d always like to receive your input in this area” and leave it open so that when it comes up, Sir will graciously offer his opinion so I know how he feels about it, At that point I can move forward knowing where he stands. This would probably not work as well in a 24/7 TPE relationship, but it works very well in a D/s relationship.

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