Lion has been active in the leather community for over 25 years. He served as safety director for TES (Eulenspeigel Society) in New York. He was also a director. He has presented workshops across the US on various dominant technique topics. Currently, he resides in the Pacific Northwest. He enjoys writing, learning new things and meeting new people.

4 responses to “Growing Into Dominance”

  1. Daniel

    Thank you for this post. I am very new to this lifestyle, and didn’t quite know (still don’t know) if I’m doing it ‘right’ because I’m not that dominant in life. I too am viewed as a respectful, well-mannered man; that is who I am and that’s how I want to be perceived. I get excited by the fact that my friends, family, and acquaintances know nothing of this beast within. I’m just relieved that I don’t have to try to be something I’m not.

  2. busymonster

    I’m new into this as well, like Daniel, and the guides here are very good. I’ve been a bachelor for… a long time. I might have a shot with someone I’ve met, who’s similarly inclined towards kink play, and I’ve been doing alot of reading here to kinda get more understanding (I’ve always had a dom/switch interest, but, when you’re a bachelor, you just … don’t bother learning).

    The person I’m interested in is much more experienced than me, so I am really trying, for when we meet up and see if the chemistry works, to at least not come off as a total neophyte (although, I have already told them I am, because, well, I do like what Rev said: Communication. Communicate, communicate, communicate, so that both parties go in knowing the level of experience of each other, and also as equals, because trying to engage a potential relationship with varying disparities— am not a fan of that, never have been, never will be, it’s unbalanced, and is unhealthy, in my experience).

    Thanks for the various guides, I’m slowly reading my way through… well, all of the essays and such here :D

  3. Brian

    I have found the guides to be correct, I had an understanding of BDSM, though only light practice, the one I am with has stated a disire to be collared, she has been shock by my reactions to many things, a willingness to learn the role, that I accept her for who he is, that she is a (currently single) mother, and that I accept her and her child and I have even told her that her daughter comes FIRST.

  4. Infernal Majesty

    Thanks fore this cool serious post. It’s a grade feedback fore Doms.

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