J. Blank, aka The Dominant Gentleman, strongly believes that being Dominant doesn't preclude one from also behaving as a Gentleman (or Lady), and that respect is paramount in any relationship, especially D/s relationships. A "real world" relationship and life coach with a kink-friendly practice, J. spends his days helping people figure out what they really want, and take steps to achieve it. Which gives him some unique insights into the amazing world that is the human psyche. Because of this, J. believes Doms have a nigh-sacred responsibility to their subs, and can sometimes be found on Twitter (@Jason_Blank), loudly ranting about the difference between a Dom and, as he puts it, "a jackass with ego issues." He can be reached by email at DomJBlank (at) gmail (dot) com.

3 responses to “Ask Anything – Troubles With Training”

  1. Jeremy

    I have been in a relationship with my new partner for almost two months now. She is a Sub and is trying to ease me into this new lifestyle. This is all very new to me, but is something that has spiked my interest. She and I both agree that I show good characteristics for becoming a Dom. I’m looking for any advice and guidance to better my knowledge and to help guild our new relationship.


  2. Sir Charles

    A Submissive has asked for my advice on which vibrator to get.
    Two come to mind, each for varying reasons. The Hitachi wand and the Rabbit, with a specialized mention to the Rabbit G.
    This is for her personal use, not for partner play, so I suppose that this is a question better left to the Women.
    I understand that they make internal attachments for the Hitachi now, but is it still a little too much horsepower for the novice sub?
    And then I’m left to wonder if the Rabbit is a tad too specialized….especially the “g”.
    Are there any new fangled gizmos out there as well.
    Thanks for the help

  3. lunaKM

    Sir Charles, It has nothing to do with being a novice sub and more to do with being a woman. Some women prefer gentle vibration while others like the harsher variety. When looking for a vibrator, personally, I don’t need it to be insertable. I get off via my clit. It’s nice to have a dildo, but that doesn’t need to vibrate.

    If she’s never had a vibrator before start with the small bullet vibes and work her way up to others that might be more her preference. I’ve burned out a handful of the original Pocket Rockets myself.

    http://bit.ly/1mySAmo (Stockroom is an affiliate of Domguide)

    Good luck.

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