J. Blank, aka The Dominant Gentleman, strongly believes that being Dominant doesn't preclude one from also behaving as a Gentleman (or Lady), and that respect is paramount in any relationship, especially D/s relationships. A "real world" relationship and life coach with a kink-friendly practice, J. spends his days helping people figure out what they really want, and take steps to achieve it. Which gives him some unique insights into the amazing world that is the human psyche. Because of this, J. believes Doms have a nigh-sacred responsibility to their subs, and can sometimes be found on Twitter (@Jason_Blank), loudly ranting about the difference between a Dom and, as he puts it, "a jackass with ego issues." He can be reached by email at DomJBlank (at) gmail (dot) com.

One response to “Reaching Out”

  1. Mara

    Oh my goodness… This is exactly what I need right now!

    After months of punishing myself for desiring to be the ‘s’ in a D/s relationship, I created a profile on fetlife only about a month ago. Its not at all buzzing with activity but its there. Lol. It was (is) indeed frightening for me venturing into uncharted waters alone. I’ve never in my life been accused of being a social butterfly. I require strong encouragement to be social but still, I’m not unfriendly. And I was beginning to think that I may be a different kind of freak for needing to get my toes wet before jumping in, so its incredibly refreshing to hear (read) someone else articulate the same thought.

    I’ve not actually met with another person whose into BDSM as yet – there’s still no evidence that a BDSM community exist where I live. But even still, I’ve managed to chat with a few online. This was very encouraging. And I hope that some day soon I will find the freedom to be who I am.

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