When I connected with the BDSM community in 2008, I found so much more than a way to engage my kinks: a place to explore BDSM as well as my deepest human nature. For me, kink is not only sexual, but spiritual, emotional, and psychological, as well as a profound path for self- and other-exploration; in other words: intimacy, which may be my biggest kink. With years of mentoring, ministering, coaching, and teaching under my belt, I'm excited to share my ever expanding knowledge and experience with Dominant Guide readers, in a mutual learning process with you and the whole kink community. Rev was the lead author for Dominant Guide from 2012 to 2015

2 responses to “Different Play Styles and the Importance of Consent”

  1. Xe

    Hey,
    I’m new to the community (first post actually), but I’ve been interested for several years and over the past weekend have been doing some more research.

    The Medical/hospital world provides a really nice definition of informed consent – basically – that all relevant (non-biased) info is given, in a way the person making a decision can understand, making them aware of all the risks/benefits, and allowing them to make a decision to consent/not without pressure…..

    If there is no ‘informed’ there can be no ‘consent’ at which point, it is not BDSM, it’s rape/assault/etc

    If in doubt, feel free to google “Informed Consent”

  2. Sadi

    As an interested, religious semi-vanilla (yes, yes, let it all out), I was wondering if one could be a dom but ‘not’ sexual (in the traditional sense)? Asking from a female’s perspective, here, too…
    Any recommendations for materials on becoming a dom appreciated!

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