J. Blank, aka The Dominant Gentleman, strongly believes that being Dominant doesn't preclude one from also behaving as a Gentleman (or Lady), and that respect is paramount in any relationship, especially D/s relationships. A "real world" relationship and life coach with a kink-friendly practice, J. spends his days helping people figure out what they really want, and take steps to achieve it. Which gives him some unique insights into the amazing world that is the human psyche. Because of this, J. believes Doms have a nigh-sacred responsibility to their subs, and can sometimes be found on Twitter (@Jason_Blank), loudly ranting about the difference between a Dom and, as he puts it, "a jackass with ego issues." He can be reached by email at DomJBlank (at) gmail (dot) com.

4 responses to “Needle in a haystack, a good Dom is hard to find.”

  1. Everbound

    Thank you for this article- I’m currently an /s type helping to bring a new Dom along and it’s been interesting to be sure to provide information that can be taken and mulled over rather than spoon-feeding because I don’t necessarily want to experience things the way I imagine… I want him to lead the way, but I know the general direction the path should/ can go and I want to at least shine a light on the path.

    Best wishes along your way.

  2. Ray

    The Dominant Gentleman…wow. I stumbled across your website looking for introductory BDSM material and through your well written posts I am very excited for this new adventure. I have spent the last few hours just reading through your material and I have so many questions. I am a Dominant personality and I completely respect and relate to your stance of approaching domination as a gentleman. I am just began a new relationship (approx. 30 days) and we have played with the ideas of D/s, but after reading your work it has become clear that this is who we are indeed. What book(s) would you recommend to establish a foundation for a D and a s?

  3. gw

    Well written, intelligent article

  4. Summer

    Best thing I’ve read from the D’s side… hoping I find this in my life, but no idea where to start. I have thought about checking out the apps, but as a female and a sub I worry about my personal safety, and I’m picky… I know I’m missing a huge part of who I am deep down by not being able to fulfill my fantasies and I crave, seriously CRAVE exactly what you described, have since I was young. Any advice you could offer a girl would be so appreciated! <3

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