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One response to “Meretricious Dom: The Rule of One and The Wall of Can’ts”

  1. Souma

    I don´t agree with this.
    Nobody is dominant in all aspects of their lives. Noone of us has control over everything. This scenario in itself belongs to the realms of fantasy. As social beings, to function properly and constructively in our everyday society, everyone needs the fundamental ability to switch status (-> to take on a dominant or submissive role) out of play. If people are not highly damaged and broken in their personality, they are perfectly able to do so, and will do so without question, whenever the need arises. Example: everytime you travel, you submit to the care of other persons to bring you safely to where you want to go. Even if you´re driving by car, you need to submit to the rules of traffic, which are NOT the rules that you´ve created all on your own.
    Every time you´re going to see the doctor- and yes, germs and illnesses are not too afraid by your menancing dominant aura to get to you- you´re going to submit or suffer the consequences. Every time you don´t agree with your boss at work or your clients at work- I think you get the idea. The image of the “perfect” dominant that controls every aspect of their everyday life is completely fictional. It´s a lie. Sure, there is a difference between people who know very well what they want and find opportuninies to do so, and people who are not sure what they want and find reasons to avoid responsibility. But that´s human. I don´t believe it´s desirable or even healthy to try and maintain a dominant status 24/7, to everyone and with everything, because it really cripples you and has nothing to do with empowerment: you can´t turn to anyone for advice, because as a dominant, it would lower your status. You can never joke or relax, because it lowers your status. You can´t make mistakes and admit them, trying to find other ways and solutions, because it ultimately lowers your status- you´re robbing yourself of your humanity, of your full range of possiblities, of your ability to connect and maintain a real, healthy, living and breathing relationship with another real human being. For me, that´s not being dominant at all, that´s being lonely, sad and delusional.

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