J. Blank, aka The Dominant Gentleman, strongly believes that being Dominant doesn't preclude one from also behaving as a Gentleman (or Lady), and that respect is paramount in any relationship, especially D/s relationships. A "real world" relationship and life coach with a kink-friendly practice, J. spends his days helping people figure out what they really want, and take steps to achieve it. Which gives him some unique insights into the amazing world that is the human psyche. Because of this, J. believes Doms have a nigh-sacred responsibility to their subs, and can sometimes be found on Twitter (@Jason_Blank), loudly ranting about the difference between a Dom and, as he puts it, "a jackass with ego issues." He can be reached by email at DomJBlank (at) gmail (dot) com.

3 responses to “Ask Anything: Can Breath Play Be Safe?”

  1. Mike

    One important distinction to touch on is the difference between asphyxia play utilizing constriction of the airway, and asphyxia play utilizing constriction of the carotid arteries. The former is *very dangerous*. In every case of erotic asphyxiation (auto- or otherwise), airway constriction is the cause of death. Even if death doesn’t occur, it is very easy to damage the trachea in that sort of play.

    The latter can be dangerous if performed incorrectly (e.g. squeezing the airway by accident), but otherwise you would have to literally be trying, with intent, to kill someone for it to result in a death. I am not aware of a single death in the BDSM world involving blood chokes. But of course, don’t be stupid; if your partner has a heart condition or any other medical condition that could possibly cause complications, then take that into consideration and play to your level of comfortability.

    Basically, know the risks. Know

  2. KC Florida

    “there is no safe way to do asphyxia play.”

    Exactly !
    I can hang out here for a while.

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