When I connected with the BDSM community in 2008, I found so much more than a way to engage my kinks: a place to explore BDSM as well as my deepest human nature. For me, kink is not only sexual, but spiritual, emotional, and psychological, as well as a profound path for self- and other-exploration; in other words: intimacy, which may be my biggest kink. With years of mentoring, ministering, coaching, and teaching under my belt, I'm excited to share my ever expanding knowledge and experience with Dominant Guide readers, in a mutual learning process with you and the whole kink community. Rev was the lead author for Dominant Guide from 2012 to 2015

9 responses to “Long Distance D/s: Beginnings”



  2. s

    I’m a sub, and I’m worried I’m losing my LD Dom. I dont know how to not seem needy. Help!

  3. Hex

    I would like to keep it simple and short I see more and more people speak and base so much on the physical in the d/s community when in my opinion it’s so much more then this. Yes so with distance it forces those to use other tools to build this relationship and I can say for myself that it helps me to get to know my partner so much more deeper and on intimate base without the flesh getting in the way. So many base relationships upon the flesh or sex aspect.. For me it’s knowing the whole person starting with their soul mind etc distance kind of helps with this.

  4. Mad town Dom

    I have a friend who is interested in starting a D/s relation who is a distance away we can not physically see each other regularly. still she is looking for at least a bit of experience as a sub before seeing if she wants to fully jump into bdsm entirely, I’m a slightly experienced dom and would like to help my friend

  5. Shay

    Hey there,

    So my Dom is overseas on business for a little while. He’s been so amazing and I want to do something special for him. Do you have any ideas? I’m intrigued by the Orgasm Dedication but I’m not too sure how to go about that… Could you give me a few examples? I’m new to this so any help is appreciated!

  6. Miss

    I have been doing a lot of reading on LD D/s relationships as of late, looking at others experiences and coping tips/pointers. I accidentally met my Dom online 9 months ago…I wasn’t looking specifically, we just seemed to find each other. He has over 20 years experience as to where I was brand new to the community. We are also 1300 miles apart. So I can truly speak for the long distance aspect, and say wholeheartedly that it can most definitely be successful. He did not even ask for a picture of me until we had been talking for a month or so, explaining D/s relationships are based more so on connection than any physical aspect. We have spent a lot of time getting to know each other, and at this point I am more comfortable with him than anyone else in my life, including those I’ve known all my years. Outside of the obvious texting/emailing multiple times every day, we also write letters (I love seeing his handwriting, so much more personal) and send each other ‘prizes’ in the mail, including articles of clothing (I sleep in his clothes)… he even sent me the cologne he wears…things of that nature so we have tangible items to make us feel closer. We both have iPhones and spend hours talking with each other on FaceTime, which honestly makes it feel like we are in the same room. FaceTime also makes play much more intimate, and he is pure genius when it comes to making the physical experience very real for me. I could go on and on, but this is already quite lengthy. My point being, I have found true happiness and complete satisfaction in my Dom, even across half of a country. To anyone out there, please feel free to email me with questions, and/or more coping tips, as it can be very challenging for me at times, especially as our connection continues to deepen. Thanks for reading :)

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