When I connected with the BDSM community in 2008, I found so much more than a way to engage my kinks: a place to explore BDSM as well as my deepest human nature. For me, kink is not only sexual, but spiritual, emotional, and psychological, as well as a profound path for self- and other-exploration; in other words: intimacy, which may be my biggest kink. With years of mentoring, ministering, coaching, and teaching under my belt, I'm excited to share my ever expanding knowledge and experience with Dominant Guide readers, in a mutual learning process with you and the whole kink community. Rev was the lead author for Dominant Guide from 2012 to 2015

4 responses to “Ways to Play When You’re Far Away”

  1. Justin

    Being currently deployed, and away from my sub, I loved this article. While we can’t play via webcam, the other suggestions will be put to good use.

  2. Lisa

    I loved this article. Thank you so much. I’m am just starting my journey into this new world. I’ve asked to be a Dom and I’m excited and nervous at the same time. Am I doing this right, am I good at it. What if I’m horrible. I have a real time partner who has no idea. I’ve asked him for us to try just the 2 of us but he won’t. So I was asked by a guy I’ve met online he has more experience then I and was a Dom but wants to submit to me. I’m not sure where to start. I can feel it in me I’m just not sure how to pull it out. To be what I want to be but have been denied. Please any advice. Thanks.

  3. Sir Gabriel

    A recent success that I had was to have my angel write a note to me. I kept it simple and directed her to write “I am his”. Once she had written it, she was directed to place it in her pocket. Every time that she thought about, touched or saw the note she was to text me with the sequential number for each time she encountered the note. I monitored the frequency of her responses for timing, ensuring she didn’t just hit 1,2,3, in rapid succession. At the end of the night, she would kiss the note with lipstick and sleep with it all night. In the morning, she would fold it up and place it in the box I had given her for this purpose. When we are together we revisit and discuss the details of the timing, event, words and so on of the notes. It is a great way to monitor how many times your sub engages with a certain topic or point you are trying to make with the added benefit of documenting topics you may need to cover when you both are together.

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