When I connected with the BDSM community in 2008, I found so much more than a way to engage my kinks: a place to explore BDSM as well as my deepest human nature. For me, kink is not only sexual, but spiritual, emotional, and psychological, as well as a profound path for self- and other-exploration; in other words: intimacy, which may be my biggest kink. With years of mentoring, ministering, coaching, and teaching under my belt, I'm excited to share my ever expanding knowledge and experience with Dominant Guide readers, in a mutual learning process with you and the whole kink community. Rev was the lead author for Dominant Guide from 2012 to 2015

2 responses to “Ask Anything: Sissy Management- HELP!”

  1. Lady Elana

    Oh Gosh! I understand completely, and an excellent response to this particular outreach.
    I found myself in a new relationship (with a person I had been desiring and wanting to be and play with a for a while) and the Dominant in me was completely lost with the desire to give everything and fulfill another’s dreams. The pressure I placed myself under out of fear of not being the same as he had experienced before me, not knowing my limitations and just doing everything, fulfilling his dreams, trying not to fail, was intense and lead to our relationship (regular and D/s side) becoming toxic. I couldn’t believe I had gone from a confident beginner, keen to learn and wanting to understand myself and the Dominant within, to an insecure person, wanting nothing more to do with a D/s lifestyle. It was scary to feel so passionate about something, to find my ‘place’ in the world, then to have it gone.
    It’s been a long journey but, two years later we’re still together. We go at a slow pace, but it’s steady and building a strong foundation is so much fulfilling for the long term.
    Thank you for a wonderful response. You’ve certainly made me feel better about my experience with this extra I had placed on myself.

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