When I connected with the BDSM community in 2008, I found so much more than a way to engage my kinks: a place to explore BDSM as well as my deepest human nature. For me, kink is not only sexual, but spiritual, emotional, and psychological, as well as a profound path for self- and other-exploration; in other words: intimacy, which may be my biggest kink. With years of mentoring, ministering, coaching, and teaching under my belt, I'm excited to share my ever expanding knowledge and experience with Dominant Guide readers, in a mutual learning process with you and the whole kink community. Rev was the lead author for Dominant Guide from 2012 to 2015

2 responses to “BDSM and Personal Growth”

  1. subtoJB

    Morgan,
    Thank you so much for this profound post. So much of what you write is as helpful for submissives as it is for Dominants. Discovering BDSM was a powerful experience for me. Sir has helped me learn so much more about myself through this process. For me, it’s not just about the sex at all. When Sir collared me and told me that I belong to him, he also reminded me that this meant that no one else was allowed to treat me with disrespect. At the time I was working in a very male-dominated (no pun intended) environment where I was constantly asserting myself just to be heard. From the moment he collared me and told me that I am his, I started holding my head higher and I didn’t back down the way I used to. It empowered me even though no one knows that I’m a collared submissive. It doesn’t matter that no one knows–I know, and therefore I carry myself differently because I know it pleases Sir.

    I firmly believe that everyone can learn from the BDSM lifestyle. The deep levels of communication and the connection that couples must have is something that more vanilla relationships lack.

    Again, I thank you for the work you’re doing to spread the word.

    –subtoJB

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