When I connected with the BDSM community in 2008, I found so much more than a way to engage my kinks: a place to explore BDSM as well as my deepest human nature. For me, kink is not only sexual, but spiritual, emotional, and psychological, as well as a profound path for self- and other-exploration; in other words: intimacy, which may be my biggest kink. With years of mentoring, ministering, coaching, and teaching under my belt, I'm excited to share my ever expanding knowledge and experience with Dominant Guide readers, in a mutual learning process with you and the whole kink community. Rev was the lead author for Dominant Guide from 2012 to 2015

7 responses to “Endings”

  1. Janie

    I can feel the sorrow about the end of the relationship and the D/sS/m relationship too. When my Master/husband and I split up not only was the loss of love experienced but the loss of M/s was so incredibly wounding that I didn’t know I could survive it. The bond that grows between lovers in a M/s or D/s relationship during play is more spiritual and more intense than any vanilla kind of love I have ever experienced. We are thankfully reuniting at lease in our vanilla relationship and will be testing the waters of a part-time M/s relationship. It is something that I need more desperately than the air I breath because the “ties that bind” can be so strong during a scene between lovers in a M/s or D/s relationship. I am so thankful for this opportunity to be with him again in this way because there has been no one else that I even remotely wanted to be with in this way. But my tears have been more for the loss of the extreme emotional and spiritual relationship between us than for the loss of love, which actually never went away although neither of us knew it for a while. Hold tight to the knowledge that you are a loving and caring person who has much to offer the right one. You will have what you desire….I truly believe it!

  2. VSc

    It is awesome to read the article, and read your response. Months later you can really see a change just in the way you write. I felt your pain while reading the article, and even though your response is short, its easy to tell that you are a better person because of what you went thru. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, its totally true.

  3. Exsohum

    Hard isn’t it?
    I would have much rather had someone hit me in the face with a shovel.

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