J. Blank, aka The Dominant Gentleman, strongly believes that being Dominant doesn't preclude one from also behaving as a Gentleman (or Lady), and that respect is paramount in any relationship, especially D/s relationships. A "real world" relationship and life coach with a kink-friendly practice, J. spends his days helping people figure out what they really want, and take steps to achieve it. Which gives him some unique insights into the amazing world that is the human psyche. Because of this, J. believes Doms have a nigh-sacred responsibility to their subs, and can sometimes be found on Twitter (@Jason_Blank), loudly ranting about the difference between a Dom and, as he puts it, "a jackass with ego issues." He can be reached by email at DomJBlank (at) gmail (dot) com.

42 responses to “An Absolute Beginner’s Guide to Domination – As Told by an Oregonian”

  1. Damon

    Thanks for the article really helps. I’m very new to this, both me and my girlfriend are in our late 40′s. I’m finding its hard to train my brain to think this is okay, after over 20 years of hearing what is right, what is not right. We both really like it, and I want to please her and be her dom, but I find myself getting nervous and losing my arousal, if you know what I mean, then I get frustrated with myself

  2. TheGoddessRoxanne

    I think we are all wired a certain way…Some of us have the courage to embrace our Domina-ness (me) while others embrace their subness.

    I went very s-l-o-w-ly with my current sub. For him, it’s about some pain but mostly power exchange. It’s a miracle we found each other but we had the qualities that were described above.

    Be who you are!

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